Still a virgin at 19

PerthroXIII · 19 days

The thing about being a virgin, is that it's really only a label that you, and only you pay attention to.

The only other time it's an issue is when you're in bed with a girl. To be frank, if you're already there at that stage... it's not an issue either.

globetrotts · 20 days

I think I needed to read this. Thanks!

naoyaru · 27 days

Take that confidence from work and spread it out @ the home. A little cheap, but use it to keep that energy state with you. You'll soon be seeing results I believe.

BlackPhoenixOnYoutub · 1 month

I'd like to give this a shot

lolonetime · 1 month

have sex again, woo her, entertain her, finger her, eat her out, and do her!

idontknowwhatthefuck · 1 month

because there's no such thing as a free ~~lunch~~ sex.

Sucks but, just ask a guy you like out.

Monkeyjoey · 1 month

You ask her out.

GraysonTodd · 2 months

I'm fucking sick of rape.

The way to help her comes in two parts. First make sure at all times that you show her that she still means just as much to you as she did in the past. Support her through every step of the healing process. Be by her side, listen to her. Show her you care. Support her through her various decisions (this may be tricky if you disagree on key issues, be patient and understanding). You are her shoulder to lean on, so be there if she ever feels like she needs someone.

Second, learn about the things you can do to help her, point her to the right resources. Cops, planned parenthood, clinics, psychologists etc. She may not want help, but these resources exist for a reason.

Nutellasaurus · 2 months

Time to drift apart, but given that you're best friends i think it wouldn't hurt to be clear about things before you start investing your time and energy elsewhere.

nvrplayedit4u · 2 months

First of all, keep work separate from your feelings for her. Especially when she's already said no like this.

wouldpecker57 · 2 months

He lives in another state now? That might have something to do with things.

danielmasterson · 2 months

You mentioned that you combine the things you learned in Anth (human sexual evolution) with PUA. I've read some of the PUA material already, but where or what's a good starting point for the Anth stuff you find most interesting/useful in this context?

YFaitChaud · 2 months

Don't look for the next stage of the relationship, just find something to do. With him, without him... etc.

Oh, it's also better if those things don't cause infidelity or some sort of strain on the relationship.

Zikoris · 2 months

Asian guy here.

The biggest issue is if he's willing to stand up against them and go with his plans (including being with you). If he really believes in this current path of his, he'll be just fine.

Being a vegan is a small issue. You can easily sway over an Asian family considering how healthy being a vegan can be sometimes. It's only a bad thing in the sense that you're not sharing food with family, and Chinese people have the weirdest (or most stubborn) notions about nutrition sometimes.

Focus on the parents first. Obviously you cannot discount the extended family, but you need to first figure out what the people your boyfriend most value in his family think first. Communicating with his parents (or whomever is most important) by letting them know that you both want to make this work properly will cause them to yield eventually.

Learn those little things they love about "Asian girls" usually this includes goody-2-shoes behavior and respect. Your BF will be able to tell you what matters.

Worst case scenario there'll be a little space between him and his family for a while until they are ready to be a little more accepting. This is something he has to deal with as well.

lithe_aureate · 2 months

Try going for the more natural make up look?

szukai · 2 months

If you don't have feelings for the guy anymore I'd recommend just leaving him alone and move on.

Surely your time is more precious than checking on some guy who was obviously not worth your time? (Probably vice versa).

Draco705 · 2 months

/r/seduction

upanddown5150 · 2 months

then forever live life the way you've intended to :)

Comfortably.

Think for a minute though... Are you satisfied being this comfortable? Or do you want something more?

Some people say there is no such thing as a free lunch.

sap_throwaway3 · 2 months

For me, the things that I could possibly be "self-deprecating" about I turn into a conversation as "something I want to learn more about or get better at" instead of "this is something I'm not good at".

Focus on the positive aspect? Just more pleasant and constructive in general. Don't know how this works with emotions and threading though.

upanddown5150 · 2 months

You're afraid of getting out of your comfort zone. This is huge for everyone. Even me.

You know what? I want you to find something that's obviously good for you, or just a lot of fun and not dangerous to you in any way (in theory).

Then do it. Step out of your comfort zone and reap the rewards.

Make a giant list of these things. Do them.

Now, if going out to meet women isn't on that list, then add to it. Now it's just another item on the list.

Do it.

ds98 · 2 months

/r/seduction

the_brick_attack · 2 months

Even if you make a fool of yourself, just be sure to have fun. Have fun with her, with other people on the dance floor :)

Don't let your newbie-ness hurt yourself. Don't be an delusionally arrogant (yea I'm super super super awesome! when you're clearly doing a horrible job), but don't let your performance get you down. Nothing attractive about a guy who just gets upset and shaken because he didn't show off all his moves, or a jackass who can't tell he stepped on everyone's feet but still thinks he's king on the floor.

Amaninabox · 2 months

powerful stuff

sosyermaw · 2 months

Ah you're fine. I went through the same shit, except I still have my buddha belly :P

szukai

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