I, too, am currently in your situation. Until a few months ago, I laughed at misogynistic jokes (even though I thought they were completely idiotic), used ableist language and generally let the patriarchal system push me around.

I went through weeks of anxiety, tearing up at the drop of a hat and drawing up plans to construct my little hut in the bush. Until I realized I was stronger than that and took small steps to make my immediate surroundings a better place.

I started calling my brother out on his sexist comments. I carefully explained to my mum about the expectations the beauty industry places on us women. I removed anyone who expressed sexist sentiments from my facebook and remove myself from social situations when prejudiced conversations pop up.

Each time I calmly explain why a person's language or actions are oppressive, even if they don't listen, I feel a little stronger. It solidifies my position and I feel like I can take on more and more as time goes on.

Good luck, friend!