BF had sex with me while I was passed out

prkt · 9 months

Why are you speaking to multiple friends of his about it? If this is something you're upset with enough to be telling his friends, you need to speak with the authorities. I can't imagine how uncomfortable those conversations must have been for his friends. They have nothing to do with this.

forgotten_friend · 1 year

This is the first thing that came to my mind while I was reading your post. Everything was innocent at first, but then the flirting started and either he or his significant other decided he had crossed a line. Maybe she found out about your conversations and became upset, or maybe it got to a point where he started worrying about her finding out and he decided to disappear before he got busted.

Sazzypants · 1 year

Squatting (with weight on the bottom of your feet) instead of sitting on your shins makes a world of difference. You get the full up and down range. It feels better for both of us. Try this! If it's hard on your legs, just do it for a little while, go back down to your shins, and try for a bit longer the next time.

jenevakoryn · 1 year

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Throwaway_of_Love · 1 year

And please, try your best to not steal any upvotes or downvotes.

disciple17 · 1 year

I prefer for it to be...uh...fast and furious: sex very frequently (3-4 times per day) but for short periods of time (10-15 minutes). He prefers spreading those sessions into one long one (30-60 minutes). I'd say on average we go about 20-25 minutes, with the occasional 10 minutes and the occasional 100 minutes here and there.

fearofthestink · 1 year

Look man, there's a difference between accidental poop on a bathroom surface and deliberate poop on a bathroom surface. I just wanted to know how she came to the conclusion that it was deliberate.

fearofthestink · 1 year

It's very unusual for someone to deliberately place or drop poop onto the edge of a bathtub; when people do unusual things that wouldn't ever cross my mind as something that would ever need to be done, I become fascinated!

fearofthestink · 1 year

Interesting, thank you for your response. When you say that it seems like it was deliberate, what do you base that on? Are the dollups formed a certain way, or in a specific spot, or anything like that?

fearofthestink · 1 year

What exactly are "plops of poop" and how do they make their ways to the side of the bathtub? I'm fascinated.

SilentAnnoyance · 1 year

Games are pathetic, and if you're having to mastermind ways to play them in order to regain "the power in the relationship," then it's not a great relationship.

I've been given the silent treatment before, and it turns out he was cheating on me. I'm not saying that this is the same in your situation, but the silent treatment for prolonged periods of time is disrespectful and should not take place in a relationship where there should be mutual respect.

Short periods of "I need some space to just be with my thoughts" are fine and completely normal, but long periods of "hey sucka, you desperately want to talk to me but I'm mad at you so HERE, HAVE SOME SILENCE" are disrespectful and childish.

Sadly, it's pretty true that you indicating that you desperately need him and that you're upset by his silence IS giving him power and confirming that the silent treatment is just what he needs to do in order to successfully hurt you. He's upset, and by doing this he is dragging you down to his level of hurt. It's petty garbage, and should not take place between two people who love each other. You should work together to spare each other any hurt, rather than doing whatever you can to passively hurt someone.

Good luck, but this type of ridiculousness shows that your relationship is most likely not going to work out; you should really work towards cutting your losses.

Eleanor_Rigby · 1 year

Lube. You need more lube so that your hand doesn't yank the foreskin with it when it's moving up and down. Movement is good, but I don't even want to think about how much it hurts when you yank so hard to that he has to get you to stop.

If you can't get enough lube onto it with your mouth alone, keep a bottle of lube handy. From what I understand, as long as his penis is lubed up really well, there is a small change of inflicting pain. A dry blowjob/handjob is never going to be enjoyable...

likeslonghair · 1 year

I don't know that he's trying to break a pattern as much as he is simply observing it and wondering what it means. I don't see how not having had a biological father in one's life, as simply a fact, could be problematic. If he'd specified that every girl he'd dated had "daddy issues" or something along those lines then it'd make more sense (if he were asking for advice) to suggest avoiding those who indicate any resentment towards not having had a biological father in their lives. The only real problem the OP mentioned is that the women refuse to grow out their hair.

likeslonghair · 1 year

Refusing to date a potentially awesome girl because she doesn't have a father figure in her life? Yeah, that's great advice...

tostidoseverywhere · 1 year

It seems like he wants to do these romantic things with you, but when it comes to execution time, he just fails miserably. The important thing to hold onto hear (with a death grip) is the fact that he wants to do them. If he says he wants to have a candlelight dinner with you, bring the candles and table cloth yourself, and bring the salad. Or, shop for the ingredients / supplies together, then make the dinner together.

If you work together on these things, you'll ramp up the "romance" that he's obviously trying to build, and you won't be disappointed. It'll be just how you like it, you'll have worked together, and you'll be able to enjoy it instead of sitting around waiting for these empty promises to come true.

MadBizz · 1 year

I second all of these recommendations. We are ultra clean but for some reason I will still get UTIs on the regular. I have an appointment with the Urologist in a couple of months, but in the meantime: the cocktail I'm working with is as follows:

Cranberry pills
Cranberry juice
Blueberry pills
Vitamin C
D-Mannose

I also have an antibiotic that I'm to take immediately after sex. I end up taking it at the end of the day each day I have sex, because one per day is the maximum.

MOST importantly: she must drink more water than she ever thought she could drink. If she's peeing all the time, she'll be flushing out the bacteria very thoroughly. Sometimes (like for me), peeing before & after sex just doesn't work. When I'm having lots of sex, I've got my water bottle or a glass of water on the go at all times.

darkthorn · 1 year

I've yet to find a girl who enjoys a cheesegrater rubbed down below.

For the record, stubble rubbing against my clitoris drives me absolutely insane. I can't even express how good it feels at the time because I become incoherent in that moment. You haven't "found" me, but you now know I exist.

theninjasquad · 1 year

I really hope you can make a clean break.

You've mentioned that this is the first serious girlfriend you've had. That may be all you ever really wanted, but trust me: there are amazing girls out there who are single, mentally and emotionally stable, and who won't rely on you to support them until they can finally become social and meet some younguns to have sex with. You'll hopefully be able to leave this relationship with some good memories and lessons learned, and take this forward into your next relationship. This was the first; maybe the next one will be the last. If this is going to be the last, then... welcome to a life of misery, good sir!

theninjasquad · 1 year

Wouldn't any of her newfound friends be able or willing to point out her rights? You should probably get your own lawyer just in case.

I'm having trouble understanding why you'd want to be with someone who can't even make her way around common-law rights (you've mentioned how clueless she is more than once), but I guess that's another thing all together.

theninjasquad · 1 year

So even if you do kick her out (which I think you should do) or leave her, she's entitled to 50% of everything you have "together" because you are common-law married?

If she's already entitled to that 50% you might as well make this as hard on her as you possibly can. Kick her out and refuse to speak to anyone except her lawyer.

apriloneil · 1 year

You could have just politely stated that you didn't want to answer the question...

CarlWearsPrada · 1 year

What did the post she made on her friend's wall say? Depending on how it was worded / the tone, it could very clearly indicate how she responded to your message.

plz_shutup · 1 year

Do you anticipate that things will get better once he's working full-time? Maybe you should just head to the library for a month, while he "enjoys" his last few weeks of "freedom".

Me, I'd be extremely unhappy that he yelled like a spoiled 12 year old, let alone that he yelled like a spoiled 12 year old when I was trying to study. It would blow my mind if my boyfriend ever did this when I was in concentration mode. If he did, which he wouldn't, and refused to stop, I would not be with him any more. I want to be with someone I admire, and I really do not admire those who have no consideration for others (especially their loved ones).

biggamehunter6 · 1 year

This happened to me with a boy. He was seeing someone else.

Chances are, she's at least interested in someone else.

immortal_nevermore · 1 year

I think you guys should stay together and work it out.

...just kidding! If he has already betrayed your trust and lied to you, what's to stop him from doing it again? Fear of getting caught? If that's the only thing, then your relationship is pointless. You were together and he gave himself to another woman emotionally and sexually (even if just in pictures)... is that something you can easily forget?

edit: It doesn't matter that this is the only time he's done something like this in your relationship (that you are aware of). He shouldn't have done this AT ALL.

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