[f]irst post for the boys of reddit

trixypixy · 1 year

Spank you very much for the picture!

GirlCrush · 1 year

Jesus Christ, what a bastard. Cut your losses and get out, forget the lease.

hulksmashtrash · 1 year

I think you should pass the ball to him. He thought he was interested and then realized he's not when things got real all of a sudden. It's one thing to text/email/talk and a completely different thing to actually hang out with the other person.

He didn't want you just for sex, or he would continue to see you just for sex. We want sex all the time, not just once a week.

I think you should take it for face value. If he doesn't call you anymore, just assume he's not interested. However, if he decides to call you to go to a party with him a month later, that's definitely just for sex, so stay away.

holdyourhorses · 1 year

I had to zoom and look in very close, I thought you're my GF, haha. You're just as sexy though, and now I'm hungry.

tostayornottostay · 1 year

haha, this is not r/shittyadvice, although that's all I have to offer too.

tostayornottostay · 1 year

If you used to have a great relationship but now you're fighting a lot, it's a bad sign.

Petty fights are unloving. If she starts them, it's because she wants out of the relationship, she's done with you but doesn't want to tell you to your face, so you don't get hurt. Prepare yourself to continue to be miserable for 1 or 2 years before she forces you to break up with her.

When you get in a petty fight, do you ever feel like she is unfair, unreasonable or cold towards you? Do you have hot makeup sex after a petty fight, or is she 'punishing' you by being 'tired'.

If she's getting ready to dump you, she'll try to abstain from sex as much as possible. She might still do it, but you'll feel frustrated because you'll start noticing that she's not all there anymore.

It really depends on her attitude towards the petty fights. I see your attitude and it seems right, you want to make it work, but it takes two to tango.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

That's what I meant to say, yes. But you can't tell him "get over it, it doesn't fucking matter!" It matters to him, and they're together, so yes it's his problem, but that's why they're a couple so they can work on it together.

the_lonely · 1 year

I had a friend in the exact same situation. It took him about one month of almost daily attempts with his girlfriend before he could get a predictable and useful hard-on. I wouldn't get Viagra, Cialis is much better. Or just accept the fact that your brain is not ready for it and get a patient girlfriend.

geedubyew · 1 year

Picture perfect.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

he's hurt, insecure and feeling cheated. It's not about what it matters to her, it's about what it matters to him. So it does fucking matter, very much so.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

I don't think he's worried about STDs at all. I think it's all emotional issues, which is actually more difficult to treat that most STDs.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

Do you have a long term partner? Would it not drive you crazy to know that there are sexual stories in your partner's life that you are not allowed to know or inquire about?

singleservinredditor · 1 year

I agree, I just hope he can handle it. He might be too insecure to handle that much infomation at once. The purpose of the stories is not to run him away, but to make them stronger as a couple.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

Except they've been together for 5 years, and there's no such thing as "his" problem or "her" problem. Once you have a serious long term partner, it should be "our" or "their problem", unless she's comfortable breaking up with him over that.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

What you say makes sense. Except you are offering business solutions to emotional problems, and that never works; not if you want to have a healthy, happy, long relationship.

Using business thinking to treat emotional problems is just like telling someone to calm down, or to stop loving, or to stop being jealous; it makes sense, except it doesn't work.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

Sounds like he had you on a pedestal. You were actually lucky to have his insecurities come out when they did, it could have been after 20 years of marriage.

singleservinredditor · 1 year

He reacted like that because of insecurity and ego. He has experimented a lot less than you have, so he is defending himself by accusing you. I would probably have a simmilar reaction if I heard something shocking from my longterm girlfriend (minus the name calling).

He would never admit this, but he's probably afraid that he's not 'cool' and 'experimented' enough for you and you might leave him or cheat on him in the future. Males can be extremely insecure about their sexuality. He may be wondering if you're happy at all with him, if he's good enough in bed for you, wondering what kind of things you still want to do without him.

It's not just his fault. It's strange that it didn't come up in 5 years; that's a pretty dam big story about your sexuality. Maybe you were somewhat aware that he wouldn't take it well, so you avoided bringing it up.

In order for you two to have a meaningful conversation with a positive outcome, he will have to go beyond his ego and insecurity, and you will have to rise above your insecurity as well. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like this is possible without a counselor. His ego and your insecurity will get the best of you.

I would strongly advise against telling him it's an offlimit subject, that will just make him more insecure. That's also not a good way to deal with serious issues. You've been together for 5 years; If you want a good future together, see a couple's counselor, as soon as possible. The counselor will help you both let the guard down and discuss the issue like grownups.

If he loves you he will go with you; if he refuses, then you can tell him that subject is off-limits. But then I'd be doubting your long-term happiness.

tayl · 1 year

You won't be making ANY money being a musician in Nashville, most bands and starting artists play for free or tips. Unless you are absolutely amazing, of course.

Use Craigslist to find a roommate, Your choices will be limited at first, since you can't afford to sign a 1 year lease. So find a month-to-month for a little while and sign a lease when you get a job.

You HAVE to have a car in Nashville. You 'could' get around without one, but it'll make it a lot harder to find a job.

Sumido · 1 year

Whoa! my sexuality is confused.

coconicole · 1 year

Wow, his age makes it a lot worse; he is acting extremely immature for his age. At 26 his manliness should be pretty much formed, there's no space for kiddie play. So yes, please call it a day and run the other way!

edit: spelling

holdyourhorses · 1 year

whoa! sweet holy titties, I like the water droplets.

coconicole · 1 year

You didn't mention your ages, which is important. If you're both still in highschool, I can understand the drama, but if he's over 24, he's got major issues and you should run.

Sounds to me like he's an insecure little douche, especially about the porn thing.

throwinitaway863 · 1 year

same here, let's have a party, and you can put as much chocolate as you want!

throwinitaway863 · 1 year

Holy crap, you vacuum for him and make him cupcakes?? You're the best girlfriednd ever.

Wow, after reding your edit, I realize he's VERY messed up and dangerous, and you should run away one day, otherwise he might cause harm to others or yourself.

Do not try to fix this guy, he's mentally unstable. Don't 'try' to break up with himl, just dissapear and leave him a note, also tell his mom or best friend or something so he'll have company and not do something stupid.

awhilenow · 1 year

Whoa! great advice, it didn't even cross my mind to look at it that way. Maybe she wants to be away from him as well, otherwise she would be fighting more for their marriage. She's not stupid either.

holdyourhorses

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