This is the 3rd girlfriend I've ever had (out of the last 4 or so) who has ended up going through either my texts or emails without telling me. I would like to know if I'm the actual problem here.

GSpotAssassin · 2 days

A serious relationship is based on the good and the bad days. If you keep her in the dark on your bad days and turn to others for help, you'll never establish a base of trust.

arefx · 2 days

u no it

arefx · 2 days

I know, right?

arefx · 2 days

He already made one for himself, I'll settle for a copy and crop my own pic around the fit.

mitchard · 2 days

I think the one thing (in this context) separating the average European and the average American is that the average American has a harder time accepting that his nation has serious faults.

Over here, in ole commy Europe, we tend to think our countries are mostly fucked, and that's the 1st step needed to unfuck them. That's why we love to sneer at the US, we're usually thinking "Haha, look at all the shit that's wrong over there, and they don't even know it."

mitchard · 2 days

It's also most common among people who have never had a passport.

arefx · 2 days

You see, all of what you just said is infinitely harder than just right clicking an Imgur link and selecting "save as".

N64all · 2 days

White was an abusive, cheating boyfriend who hit her so hard, that at one point, their toilet broke:

This is my favorite line by far. I'm also making this my default verbal threat now. "I'll slap you so hard your toilet gonna break."

RandomFlotsam · 2 days

It's actually in there, you just missed how passionate they are about a detail.

The Sunnis absolutely reject the idea that any divine authority can be attributed to anyone but Mohammed. The only texts they acknowledge outside of the Qur'an are texts that analyze what Mohammed said and did.

On the other hand, the Shia believe that ole Mo's blood lineage of imams have an authority inherited from him. They've dedicated mosques and shrines to Mo's successors, and they read their words with a weight similar to his. In effect, they consider these imams to be something like the Pope in the Catholic church, a credible and legitimate source of "official" teaching.

Since the Quran is very strict about banning any idols, the reverence of imams is a strong point of contention.

GSpotAssassin · 2 days

Hm, this changed how I saw the situation. It doesn't need to be read out of context, it's bad in context too.

She picked up on you being stressed and hesitant about the relationship and she wondered if that's because your attention is focused on someone else (or maybe that you have problems you're not telling her about). Since you went to a 3rd party, female even, and questioned your relationship, her hunch was accurate.

If you had that discussion with your partner instead of someone else, she'd have more of a reason to trust you.

rejectedandguilty · 2 days

For many men who grow up in a conservative setting, being gay is a personal tragedy. I wouldn't be surprised if he's even more traumatized than she is and keeps waiting for the gay to go away. While it's easier on our brain to decide one person is good and the other a victim, in the vast majority of complicated cases like this, they're both victims of their circumstances and their own inability to deal with them.

arefx · 2 days

I can't be bothered to edit the image a hundred times over to make it fit though. How would you like to post your final crop?

TheLordAsian · 5 days

Muphry's Law in all its glory.

citrustar · 9 days

Whose joke?

sbrbrad · 9 days

Because women love getting in free and men love assuming that this means more women will be in there.

justincase1021 · 10 days

Racism involves racial valuing, in one way or another suggesting that one race is inferior/superior to others.

"Haha look at PingPong there with his crooked eyes" isn't racism, it's humor in poor taste. They often go hand in hand, but one is not a clear indication of the other.

justincase1021 · 10 days

As a native of Slovenia I can confirm this. Over here, it was not even a topic of discussion if dad gave us a few sips of his beer at around age 13. Going to a cafe for a beer with school buddies wasn't frowned upon either. That leads to a culture of social moderate alcohol consumption, and most young people see a clear difference between going out for a beer on a thursday and melting themselves with alcohol on a Saturday night. Getting drunk at a party as a college student is completely normal, but binge drinking to the point of accidents and stomach pumping are a very rare sight.

That said, we also have a serious adult alcoholism problem, but that's a different matter. It comes from a generational crisis after the transition to capitalism and from a very high acceptance of alcoholism in society.

So in one sense, I can't really confirm that social acceptance of alcohol leads to lower consumption. It probably doesn't. It does, however, make it more of a public matter, and while the kids do get drunk, the parents usually know about it and can intervene when it slips out of control.

proposit · 10 days

I see people have addressed the communication issue, and that's a fair point. In addition to that, I think you need a paradigm shift in how you're looking at the problem.

This isn't (and shouldn't be) about how big your share of the time you get with him is compared to other social engagements. It shouldn't be about thinking that you had Monday while someone else had Thursday. A relationship moves up to the next phase when you begin sharing social experiences, so the realistic distinction is between 4 categories:

your time with him exclusively
your time with him and his friends/family
your time with him and your friends/family
his solo time with friends/family

It's not a mathematical question, but you quickly see that between it moves your time with the guy from to 75%.

Of course, there are many reasons to avoid this shift, most of them insecurities. He may be concerned that if you both attend his friend circle, that you'll be bored, or that they won't appreciate your presence. These can prolong the move forward if not addressed.

The best you can do is to try to engage his friends on a direct friendly level, and remove yourself from the limitations of being his attachment. You'll also need to show some interest in his social life outside the two of you.

wolfbearpiglet · 10 days

Don't use the kid as an excuse for how you make your decision. The big question is, do you have it in you (and do you even want to) stay with her for the long term. Can you develop the relationship between the two of you to where you need it to be, do you still love her, and does she love you.

The half-DNA in the kid doesn't affect any of those questions. You know she slept with someone else, that is the big issue, and it's known information. Whether or not the child is yours or not is trivial.

This is your decision (and hers) to make. Either you can establish a stable loving relationship after all the drama or you should walk away.

rayrab911 · 10 days

I get business formal skype posts from mine. Unnerving, since I can't make myself reply in the same way, and it takes him ages to type up paragraph responses. My Skyping with my dad is much like email, really.

rayrab911 · 10 days

I was a foreign exchange student in an Arkansas high school, and the AP English teacher expressly allowed me to sleep in her class as long as my grades remained better than those of the locals. It felt like competing in the paralympics, and I found myself intentionally boycotting some of the glasses to get my GPA down to a manageable level where you don't get any accolades.

Tiger337 · 10 days

Islam, however, is in the majority of committing heinous acts towards other humans, IN THIS DAY AND AGE

You seem to be completely discounting the illegal attacks on Iraq and Afghanistan which killed scores of Muslims. You're also ignoring that the... let's say non-Muslim West has tacitly supported the human rights violations, mass-internment, and murder committed on the population of Gaza. You also seem to ignore the fact that the US, as a strictly non-Muslim nation, has recently kidnapped people all over the world, legalized torture, indefinite detention in undisclosed or legally ambiguous penal institutions, and maintains a policy of drone attacks in several countries around the world.

You also seem to be forgetting that some of the worst atrocities committed over their own populations in Muslim nations can be tracked back to dictator regimes which were either created or maintained with heavy support of the US.

The only thing that you could possibly have to illustrate your point about heinous acts at the hands of Muslims would be a handful of terrorist attacks in the west in the recent years. To maintain this point, you would first have to conveniently ignore the attacks committed in the same period by white non-Muslim terrorists, such as the Oklahoma bombing, Unabomber, Breivik... You would then have to divert attention to the scale of the attacks, and focus on 9/11 as an example of how many more people were killed in that one. Inevitably, you'd then have to answer how this means anything else than just that one particular group of attackers was more competent than the rest.

You see, I've had these discussions before, and just raging and fuming doesn't move me anymore.

As for my numbers, Saudi Arabia has about 27 million inhabitants, and Wahhabism anywhere else in the world is a negligible exception. There are 1.7 billion Muslims in the world. Even being extremely generous and assuming that every single Saudi is a terrorist-supporting basket case, I was still generous in my calculation.

If 90% of Muslims worldwide rejected this, than we wouldn't be inundated by the over-abundance of atrocities committed by Muslims.

Lovely straw man. You're only inundated by your perception there, possibly because of the news sources you rely on.

Tiger337 · 10 days

Another deviation from the subject with no reply on the topic at hand.

I didn't post about my background because it's irrelevant, and it would in no way change what I said. If you insist, however, I'm not some average teenager from a middle-class western suburb. I was born and grew up in the Balkans, and half of my extended family are Bosnian, a fair share of em Muslim. Although I've lived all my life in a region where Catholics, Serb Orthodox Christians and Muslims are equally represented, where political and social strife has brought those religions to the forefront of the social and political sphere, this has no impact on the fact that I called you out on an absurd sweeping generalization and a conclusion that you didn't back up by anything more than a display of ignorant bias.

I don't even know why I keep replying to someone who uses ad hominems to start and end every post and red herrings to subvert the topic of the discussion, but there you have it.

4ourthdimension · 11 days

Hihi, I've had people stop in confusion when I made my last char. Running around low level areas giving people ALL THE BUFFS.

That's all I really have to show for all those hours wasted levelling, but it feels good.

4ourthdimension · 11 days

Eh I don't know, I was bored one weekend and I crafted a ton of low(ish) level orange gear, then ran around Dromund Kaas inspecting lowbies. Anyone who was obviously a 1st char in shit gear and usually with the wrong stats for their class got some orange stuff and a free crash course in what stats to gear. Was a fun night all in all, met some cool people.

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