But I don't have a problem communicating. You think you are telling the truth, but really you're just making things up. My feelings are very hurt. You have judged me harshly and incorrectly. You are right, I should have told my husband to rinse his dishes. For more serious issues that I know will be a permanent problem if handled incorrectly, my approach to communication is very calculated. It needs to be very effective rather than feeling-based. That is why I made a post in relationships-advice. That is why I have now, with one very loving but effective conversation with my husband, my issue is resolved. If it creeps up again, I will take your advice and be more confrontational. I would like to offer you some advice, too. People on the internet have feelings too, and being super-judgmental serves no purpose.