Update to when to tell a new partner about my past rapes.

HelpAFriend81 · 2012-05-19T04:19:23.856017+00:00

Thank you for the update. I wish you the best.

MargoBeccaMargo · 1 day

Like this:

Almost two months ago, to date, I was raped. It was by someone I know, and trusted. He was asking me to prom, and then we went for a walk, when I said no he kept going anyway, until he grabbed the back of my neck and forced me to go down on him.

If your boyfriend is a good and mature guy, he will be sensitive to what happened. Tell him what happened exactly like you told us, straight forward. Tell him how you feel, and be open and honest. He might take it hard, but it won't be directed at you (as long as he's a good, and mature guy).

I'm sorry about what happened, you didn't deserve it and it wasn't your fault.

smiley_2876 · 2 days

He is the best guy out there and cares for me like no other.

That's very relieving to know that he's a good guy. With everything that's going on it must be harder to worry about how your boyfriend will react. Telling will probably relieving, since you'll have more support.

No I have never been able to bring myself too.

Consider it, please. It doesn't mean you're broken, or giving up. Professionals can help you cope. They can help you deal with what happened in a more healthy way.

I wish you the best.

smiley_2876 · 2 days

How do I tell him what happened in my past without losing him and the intimacy we have?

If your boyfriend is a good and mature guy, you won't lose anything. Tell him what happened exactly like you told us, straight forward. Tell him how you fell, and be open and honest. He might take it hard, but it won't be directed at you (as long as he's a good, and mature guy). I've been on the other side of what you are going through. Knowing what happened gave me patience, understanding and sensitivity.

Have you talk to a councilor about what happened?

IHaveNightmares · 2 days

Absolutely. You are a worthwhile person. Remember that.

Jadencallaway · 3 days

The FAQ lists a few things.

fatbastard79 · 3 days

Not exactly sure what you're asking.

I was basically asking die arrangement.

Thank you.

lomedefense · 3 days

Ohh, that makes so much more sense. Thank you.

reikiman · 3 days

One thing to consider is that a Leaf gets back $7,500 from the federal government, and if you're in California you get a $2,500 rebate. That's $10,000, and not even considering other perks like HOV lane access.

EV's do have their use cases in certain situations.

lomedefense · 3 days

I would like to see a video of someone cutting through a club in 3 seconds.

I922sParkCir · 3 days

Whoa, I wouldn't recommend making so many round without test.

I922sParkCir · 3 days

All done! How's it going?

fatbastard79 · 3 days

Wow. I'm pretty speechless. That's awesome. How are you setting it up?

IHaveNightmares · 3 days

I've been on the other side of this with a girl who thought I couldn't love here forever, and wouldn't stick by her. I know you've come to that place because of all the hurt you have experienced, and your reaction is normal.

Who are you, and what do you love about yourself? What are the things you do that you take pride in? When you find someone who loves you, those will be the reasons that they love you.

I've found that positive esteem comes intrinsically. Do the things you love, and learn to love yourself. When you love yourself, you won't find it surprising that someone else loves you too.

So, who are you, and what do you love about yourself?

I922sParkCir · 4 days

All done!

librtee_com · 4 days

I absolutely refuse to believe you are that dumb.

The OP states that he has been a vegetarian for 10 years, and he gives his reasoning. He also brings up the topic of an invasive species, that is damaging to his local environment. He brings up the topic of waste, and makes a clear argument that eating the invasive species does not violate his convictions.

This has very much to do with vegetarianism. I would like to say that we are all governed by reason and logic, and can act accordingly. This post highlights the reason, and logic behind the choice of a vegetarian lifestyle for many of us. It states a perspective of what is morally acceptable, and what is not. It is clearly relevant.

librtee_com · 4 days

Come on, this is clearly relevant.

talkingheads86 · 4 days

I have been looking at RCBS products simply because I have heard good things. Is the Turret press of theirs worth what they're asking for it? I like that it is both single-stage and progressive, meaning I can get the hang of it rather than jumping feet first into the fire.

A turret press is not the same as a progressive. This article goes into the differences.

Here's a great comparison between the progressives. The RCBS Pro 2000 isn't on there and honestly, I think that press is a bit out dated.

I922sParkCir · 4 days

That's a good point. Would you like to make a section about health issues, and concerns with casting?

I922sParkCir · 4 days

It seems it was for the best. Many of those discussions have merit, but this is not the place to have them.

pentlotrup · 4 days

I've removed that whole thread.

This is the goal of /r/RapeCounseling:

This subreddit exists to provide emotional support to those who have experienced rape and abuse.

That thread was becoming too offensive, and triggering, without providing any benefit to rape victims.

Nothing to see here, move along.

Edit: I've posted this: A reminder of this subreddit's goal.

Justsomerandomgirl · 4 days

This subreddit is not the place for insults. They will not be tolerated.

Justsomerandomgirl · 4 days

This subreddit is not the place for insults. They will not be tolerated.

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